I do believe that it is very difficult, because I have read that this age is the so-called defiant phase of a child.
I like how you are highly responsible and passionate about creating a loving upbringing.
But as I read the headings of the different lessons, it sounded crass to me because someone once told me that I still have to learn this lesson and that was not at all positive for me 😂.
But as I read it, what you mean by lessons, I found them to be very loving and totally awesome.
But, however, it could be that your little boy might not want to have a conversation or be harmonious when he feeling anger and I don't know to what extent something might be too patronising for him. I like it when parents are like friends. I also like it when teachers are like friends. I think it is most important to be allowed to be one's very own personality and to become self-aware and to want to act out of that. It would also be a social experiment to see whether a person would no longer be defiant.
You're right, there are many moments when we don't meet other people at eye level and I'm also sure that this is very rare, so I think it's totally fair to definitely not demand this too much from little people.
But everything I've read, I'm totally convinced that you're doing a great job. Patience and love and not scolding, I think that's really great. These are things that can lead to real peace :))🍀🧡
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Hey @suntree, thank you for leaving a comment.
I know that my son is not ready for some of these lessons (at least not yet). But I also know that many times I need to hear a lesson many, many times before I can understand. That is my goal as well with my son.
We start talking about things when he is young so that he can understand those things as he grows older.
I agree that we are uniquely made. That is why my wife and I need to speak with my son uniquely as well. He is not like his sisters and he might not learn about our family values and proper social interactions the same way.
We want to meet him where he is so that he can learn and grow. In the end, my hope is that my children are equipped to be the best versions of themselves in the future. We start teaching now so that they can thrive while they live in our home and all late when they are away from my wife and me. We won't rush that process because we cherish all of kiddos, but someday they will end up leaving.
We want our kiddos to have peace. Peace internally and with others!