I have seen how divorce affects children in many ways and I think you are right not to take sides between parents and children as most people do, the part about parents mental health and how it affects the way they raise their children is very true but it is not talked about enough, your opinion about trying to work things out first but knowing when to let go is realistic not that fake positivity that people promote nowadays. I read somewhere that children who live with parents who fight all the time end up more messed up than children with divorced parents who get along well which makes a lot of sense when you think about it.