We are used to making promises, telling stories either to scare or inspire. When the tides turn would you be able to take your own advice.
I adviced Luther that his relationship with Glory was making him act like a fool. I know i sounded harsh but why will a full grown man be acting like they used a charm to tie him down.
I asked him what was wrong with him the last time we spoke, he said “my guy, when love happens to you, your eye will open.”
“Bro, that’s not love, it is obsession.” I attacked immediately.
I gave him a truck load of advise before ending the call on him.
Two days later, we went for guys hangout. I was the life of the party not because i brought money but because i used Luther’s love life to make everyone laugh.
Nkem laughed to an extent he fell on the floor with tears in his eyes.
Luther made a statement that stuck with me, “people like you, when you fall in love, you will hit hit your mouth on the floor.”
We laughed it out before i dished him my last piece of advise.
“In this life, you are in charge of your feelings and emotions. Do not let anything or anyone control you. You are in charge.”
The other guys echoed it; “you are in charge.”
I was feeling like the wisest relationship therapist. Luther looked like he was going to take my advise.
I met Lucy at a party. Luther invited me for a party. He didnt want to go alone, so I decided to go with him because it was a friday night.
Lucy was also invited for the party. We sat beside each other during the monoloply game and after the game we didnt know exactly when we distanced ourselves from the crowd and discussed till around 3am in the morning.
We exchanged numbers and chatted everyday we talked and before I knew it we were arranging and planning our hangout. It was a beautiful friendship.
Lucy really liked me and i could tell because she always showed it the little or big way as she could.
At one point, She told me “you know i like you, and you know if you ask me out, i would say yes, so what’s holding you?”
I thought about it long and hard and although i didn’t really want to be in a relationship but i gave in because of the constant pressure. Also including the fact i really really liked her.
I was scared truthfully speaking. I could picture myself falling heads over heels and my friends laughing and making jest of me especially Luther.
I gave in and decided to ask her to be my girlfriend. She gave me her response instantly. We dated for three years and now i was ready to ask her to be my wife.
I had arranged all the gifts and people who was going to make that day a glorious day. The day of my proposal. I was so sure she was going to say yes. Her friends and even her Dad really liked me alot. At some point i started chatting with her Dad, he refers to me as his son-in-law most times. I was also close to her mum but not as much as her Dad.
On the day of the proposal, we planned it so well that she didnt suspect a thing. Finally, she was in the building and although i knew she would say yes, i was still nervous.
When she came into the room, she found her friends and mine there too. She was surprised and when she turned, there i was kneeling and asking that she makes me the happiest man on earth.
She looked at me and immediately she ran out of the building rejecting my ring.
I knelt there feeling both disappointed and embarrassed.
That night i asked myself questions, “what made me think she would say yes?” I couldn’t sleep through the night. My friends called my line that i had to shut it down. Her father called to ask how it went but i was in no place to talk.
The first thing in the morning, i rushed to her house without thinking. I knocked on her door and when she opened i knelt down and was begging her.
I wondered what my friends would think if they saw me. I mocked them about their love life and here i was kneeling down and begging a girl to marry me.
I’m a hypocrite.
