"I can't relate" - This is a chorus that has become a familiar chorus for interacting with others. This is a statement that recognizes the limitations of my own experience, the limitations of my understanding. If someone shares a story or feeling that doesn't resonate with me, I have an instinctive urge to qualify for my answer. I will not try to alienate myself or reject your feelings. I simply recognize the gaps between our perspectives.
When we think about the era when we say "I don't know," it is clear that it is often a pioneer of deeper conversations. It is admitted that there are no answers that do not fully understand the complexity of other people's experiences. Still, I found a strange type of release in this entry. I can ask questions to explore the unknown, seeking clarity without pretending to be an expert.
"I don't know" does not imply that another experience is invalid or unimportant. I recognize that there is no personal connection to your story. We found that this expression could be both restrictive and strength. On the other hand, it recognizes the limitations of my own understanding. Meanwhile, it opens the door to new experiences, new perspectives and new connections.
"I Can't relate" is a humiliating sentence. I remind myself that I am not the center of the universe that my experiences are merely a small part of a huge, complicated network of human emotions and stories. And in this humility I found connections with others. When I acknowledge the limits of my understanding, I create spaces for others to share their stories, educate me, and connect me at a lower level.
As I continue to navigate the complexities of relationships, I learn to accept the expression "I can't know." I learn to see it as an opportunity to grow, connect and understand. By recognizing gaps in your experiences, I create spaces for others to fill these gaps, share stories, and connect with me at a lower level. And I find community, belonging, and a common sense of humanity.