Marriage as we all know is not something that we should just wake up one day and feel like jumping into it. It is something that we need to careful consider and prepare for (you can never be too prepared though). Also, most importantly, marriage is not man’s idea, it is God’s idea so it is very important to know that when anyone chooses to take that path, they have do first! be willing to know what was in God’s mind and plan for marriage or else they might end up getting it all wrong and cause problems not just for themselves but for those around them too.
For today’s Hivelearners topic, we are asked to discuss the effect of divorce, who is more affected by it?- the children or the parents. I find this question easy to answer and that is because I have experienced something close to it and I know a little about God’s plan for marriage too. As married couples, one thing that most of them look forward to having are children. At first some of them might not want to have children but it’s only a matter of time before they want to. So, children are blessings that marriages bring most of the time and the moment children are involved in a marriage, it gets harder for the parents to make some personal decisions.
Well, some parents don’t care though but naturally they should care. Children are always watching their parents, the choices they make, they way they respond to things and all, so the moment a couple decides to go their separate ways, that will take a huge toll on the children. Yes, there are some cases when they just have to separate because they have gotten too many things wrong but that won’t change the fact that the children will be the one suffering from that breakup more.
Most married people out there are with the mindset that no matter what, once it gets a little hard or tiring they will go back to their parent’s houses or probably look for someone else to give them joy. And unfortunately, that’s the mind a lot of person's are also going into marriages with today because they feel marriage is not by force. Well, before marriage, it wasn’t by force but after marriage the table turns, and that is why we shouldn’t be in a haste to go into marriage or do the things that should normally be enjoyed in marriage because we will only end up getting it wrong.
Immediately we agree to walk down the aisle, we should also keep it somewhere in our minds that there is no going back till death do you and your partner part. Having this mind will guide you better in choosing a partner that you can live with forever (till you die) despite the challenges and misunderstandings. Rather than going into marriage with the mind that once you get tired you can just walk away, easy peasy.
All of this is even more serious when there are children involved in that union. Now, both the man and the woman are not allowed to make decisions based on what they want, they will have to consider the children most of the time because for one, those children never asked you guys to bring them to the world, the both of you bore them out of love! So, their well being comes first and this is the more reason why you and I have to marry right. The easiest way to marry right is by following the manual of the one who ordained marriage- God. If you try to do it your own way, you will end up making decisions you’d regret.
Divorce is only an option when maybe your partner is infidel or has cheated on you. But this doesn’t mean you can’t forgive your partner if they genuinely repent from the latter. As we have seen, most homes that are broken, the children have to always put in the extra effort to be great people in life and that is really not easy compared to when they have their both parents standing by them. If you genuinely love your family both as a man and as a woman, you will always put the others before yourself and this will only be good when you don’t rush into marriage and you follow the right manual.
Thanks for reading through. ❤️
