Touching things without permission, that's a really good one. Regarding backbiters, I prefer what-you-see-is-what-you-get kind of people who reveal who they really are and say what they needed to say. I am just imagining being in the shoes of the bullied meeting the bully many years later- oh no. I guess it's better to have fewer friends in the group as long as everyone is true and with peace of mind.