If we're going to hold parents responsible then they need to be in charge.
Oh I agree. A lot of the laws to "protect children" have hamstrung parents from doing their job. Spanking is a big one for me - an incredibly small percentage of parents would hurt their children by spanking, yet to protect against those who would, all lost the ability. The irony is, those that would, don't care about the law.
The only way you are responsible Matt, is over your own actions and by extension, that of your children. which brings back to the conversation of liability. If a 15 year old boy rapes a girl, should the parents of the boy pay a cost?