Unfortunately, cruel treatment, over-demanding and abuse have become normalized here in my country, which can undoubtedly trigger psychological damage.
I thin "too soft" treatment is also a type of abuse, as it leaves kids without the tools to deal with the realities of life. A good home is not one where the kids get whatever they want.
Without a doubt, I agree with you, there is no conscious parenting without an emotionally present adult.
Many mothers and fathers who want to do well in their parenting role look for that balance in the education of their children, not as bland as you say, Mr. Tarazkp, not as strong.
Fundamentally, raising is not only caring, it is leaving footprints. And these traces are recorded with who we are, with what we heal, with what we manage to manage our own emotions.
I have said it many times: a child learns more from how we treat ourselves, than from what we try to teach him with words.