When a person is angry, one is like a volcano that can erupt. But one can be angry, that's normal. It's just how much it affects the other person. A person should actually be as careful with feelings as when driving a shopping trolley or a car. Feelings can also be badly hurt.
I don't know to what extent she should listen to you. Actually, every person is unique with their own thoughts, wishes, opinions and feelings and no two people are the same.
My brother pushed his opinion on me last year, which I didn't feel that way. You have to think about whether you want it yourself if you are supposed to listen to someone else.
What I think is important is that you fully accept her with all her anger and don't stand against her and try to deal with her anger yourself so that you feel good 😊